One summer evening in August 2012, my toddler and I came home to find my husband hanging in the garage. Dead. He killed himself.

Sarah Santiago grew up in Champaign, Illinois cheering on the Fighting Illini. When she was ten years old she went to Camp Ak-o-mak in Canada for 7 weeks where she learned to be independent and tough.

1. You will be judged by everyone, including and starting with your own family.